Neediness pushes away.
There is a scripture in Matthew 29:25 “For whoever has will be given more”
This scripture has tremendous wisdom of the Pareto principle ( 80/20 rule ) that to those that do not need will be given more. This scripture was reworded by Percy Bysshe Shelley ( Husband of Mary Shelley of Frankenstein fame ) who said “The rich get richer and the poor get poorer”
This comes from an understanding of that desperation pushes away and confidence attracts.
Why does desperation push away?
Because humans want a return on investment. They also do not want to be influenced by the stigma of the desperate. People view the needy as a black hole of misfortune that can pull the confidence and wealth off their being if they venture too close. Most people realize that desperate people far out number the confident and that any investment in the poor would be not only a waste of time but a waste of investment. Of course they are exceptions to this when someone “who has” sees someone of unknown talent “who has not”. But the majority of humans are stagnant and sinking by and large.
What would anger many of the poor is to realize how much the wealthy are comped wherever they go. These millionaires could afford these comps but they don’t even need to pull out their wallets to attract further gain.
But if a desperate individual were to walk into a restaurant they would be anxiously watched in fear of theft and they would be nickel and dimed for every thing they desired.
“But JERR” a voice calls out from off the page “That is not fair!”
Of course it is fair. To give everyone a equal slice of pie is not fair. Wasting investment is not fair. Rewarding those who fail to produce is not fair to society. To equalize all reward is to diminish the work that is necessary for the gain of such reward.
The best thing for a man to remember is that the more he projects a needy spirit the more his spirit will be ignored or robbed from him.
If a man projects confidence, then what he desires will fall into his orbit.
Nobody on the planet punishes neediness more than a woman. They are the most “unfair” of the sexes.
Why?
Because they selfishly look for a protector and provider to secure their sexual reproduction.
“But JERR” a voice calls out from off the page “My woman and I do not want kids, how does that apply to us?”
Do you think just because a person chooses to live a certain way that they are immune from the animal of their own self?
That would be a foolish thought.
Humans can rise above the animal but the algorithm still plays in the background. A woman is a female human and female humans all have the same programming running in their minds. They want a confident being that will be able to secure for them safety while they are vulnerable with child in womb. (even if they are post menopausal at the ripe age of a hundred)
They look for confidence in a man as a biological investment in their genetic legacy.
And this programming still runs in her body regardless if her hair is purple, she is covered in anime tattoos and celebrates her gender fluid expression.
She is still a female human with a biological purpose.
It is important for a man to project certitude in his existence to reassure his woman that her “offspring” will not die.
And what will happen when a man starts to work on his confidence?
He will be given more. His success will snowball into great gains as others chase his aura. They want what he contains. They want to invest in him with their attention and resource. That is the key to success. To act as if there is no need while begging within the heart.
Remember that even the perceived confident are carrying doubt with them. Each man has the burden of doubt within him. To be alive is to be in doubt. But that doesn’t mean that a man should advertise his doubt. He should only advertise what will be more beneficial for him.
Shakespeare wrote “Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win”
Don’t sink with the doubt you carry and more importantly hide what you carry from public view. Do not give further reasons for others to lose faith in your being. The world loves a winner and fears to associate with the loser.
Work on confidence by increasing internal fortitude. Become detached emotionally and work more on self reliance. Look at the mirror and think deeply about the desperation you see looking back. Take time to think about how your confidence can be projected more successfully.
Look in the mirror until you see a being who doesn’t look like he needs a damn thing. And then you will be given everything.
Pick up, carry and pass frame.